Big Little Secrets
Big Little Secrets: everything you need to know about this exclusive erotic party in Amsterdam
Discover what makes Big Little Secrets, also known as BLS, so special. Everything about the dress code, membership, atmosphere and the world of this exclusive erotic party for couples and single ladies in the heart of Amsterdam.
What are Big Little Secrets?
Big Little Secrets, or BLS for short, is an exclusive erotic party in Amsterdam, founded by Jorna Wierts. In addition to being the founder of BLS, Jorna is also a relationship coach for non-monogamous couples and singles, making her a well-known figure in the open-minded community in the Netherlands.
What makes BLS special is the combination of eroticism, humour, and class. At the parties, dancing, connection and atmosphere are central. The music varies from soulful house and techy beats to touches of urban and techno. Some venues have multiple music rooms, so there is something for everyone. Between the music, entertainers perform stage acts, balloons and confetti fly through the room, and everything is elaborately decorated according to the theme of the evening.
Is Big Little Secrets a swingers party?
A question that often comes up. The short answer is no, BLS is not a swingers party and not a couples club. The organisation explicitly states this itself.
On the dancefloor, people are dancing. Women in lingerie, men in suits. The music builds, the dress code is a feast for the eyes, and the atmosphere is charged, sensual, and free. Nothing else happens there. Many guests come for exactly that: an evening out with their partner or as a single lady, in an environment where they can move freely without judgment.
On some editions, there is a Play Area. A separate space that is attractively furnished by BLS: not just mattresses, but also seating, mood lighting, and everything you need, including condoms. It feels like a cosy living room in the form of a love lounge. Here, couples and single ladies can indulge in intimate moments, provided it's with mutual respect and explicit consent.
This space is entirely optional. If you wish to visit BLS without ever entering this area, you can. It will simply be an evening out with dancing, drinks, and atmosphere. At BLS, you don't have to do anything, and you can do anything, as long as there is respect and consent.
Who is Big Little Secrets for?
BLS targets a young, refreshing audience. The minimum age is 22 and the average age is between 26 and 45. Guests are well-presented, sociable and enjoy an evening where styling, music, and connection come together.
The vibe among guests is playful and flirty, always with respect for one another. People calmly gauge whether eye contact is reciprocated or if there's an opening for a bit of flirting. No one is pressured, and that's precisely what makes the atmosphere at BLS so pleasant.
The party is accessible to couples and single ladies. Single men cannot apply for individual membership, but are welcome together with their partner. This choice maintains the balance on the dance floor and contributes to the atmosphere that characterises BLS.
How do you join Big Little Secrets?
BLS is not a public party, but a private community. Membership is free, but not automatic. Prior to admission, a thorough screening is carried out by the admissions committee. In this way, BLS builds a warm, like-minded community, with a focus on connection, fun, and adventure.
You sign up via biglittle-secrets.nl. During registration, you will be asked to provide a clear, recent full-body photo of yourself or of you as a couple. Dressed casually, in colour, without filters and without sunglasses. The screening committee assesses each request individually.
If you are admitted, you will receive a personal ticket link and code for each event. Tickets are only available in this way and are personalised. Due to the exclusivity and limited number of places, popular editions often sell out quickly.
The editions, themes, and locations of Big Little Secrets
BLS organises multiple editions per year, each with its own theme and in a unique location in Amsterdam. This could be a hidden chapel, an iconic tower or a atmospheric club. Well-known editions include Big Little Chapel, Big Little Circus, Big Little Peepshow, Big Little Opium, Big Little Casbah and Big Little Teatro.
What is striking about a BLS evening is how far the costumes go. The stage is completely decorated in the style of the theme and the entertainers appear as characters who fit perfectly within that world. Their outfits, their styling, their acts: everything is thought out and contributes to the illusion of that one evening. Not random acts on a random stage, but stories that are staged.
Some editions are weekend sleepovers with an overnight stay on location. Others are classic nights from evening until late into the morning. In addition to parties, BLS also organises occasional events such as participation in Canal Pride and international trips.
The location of an edition is carefully communicated to the members. Due to the changing settings, each edition feels new, even for those who have been part of the BLS community for years.
Safety, respect, and privacy at Big Little Secrets
BLS is known for its commitment to safety and privacy. Upon entry, phone cameras are covered to ensure visitor privacy. Guests themselves are not permitted to take photos or videos. Any visual material produced by the organisation is only shared in a secure online environment for members.
Smoking is only permitted in the covered smoking area and drugs are forbidden. Security ensures a safe atmosphere in which everyone can feel at ease. Respect, privacy and discretion are three core values actively upheld by every guest and host.
The dress code for Big Little Secrets
The dress code for BLS is an essential part of the evening. Each edition has its own theme, and the colours and atmosphere of that theme are reflected in the guests' outfits. This creates a visually cohesive whole that is highly valued. Upon arrival, angels ensure that everyone adheres to the dress code. The rules are strict, precisely to maintain the atmosphere for everyone.
For the ladies The focus is on luxury lingerie. Stylish accessories that fit the theme complete the outfit. Stylish heels are a must; trainers and biker boots should be left at home. Specific style tips will be shared in the newsletter for each edition so you can tailor your outfit to the theme.
For the gentlemen Dress code applies: a stylish suit in the theme colour, with matching accessories. A three-piece suit is not essential, but smart trousers, a shirt, and smart shoes are the minimum. Trainers and jeans are not welcome.
The dress code will be strictly enforced. If you do not comply with the guidelines, you will not be granted entry. Therefore, it is essential to prepare your outfit well in advance.
Collaboration between VoyeurX and Big Little Secrets
VoyeurX and Big Little Secrets work together regularly, especially for events where leather is part of the dress code. When an edition has a fetish-oriented theme, BLS always communicates this to members in the mailing prior to the event. A sign of the close collaboration between the two brands.
For these kinds of editions, VoyeurX features throughout the evening in various ways. Gentlemen wear harnesses over a blouse, a look that elevates the suit without exceeding the dress code. Even the DJ behind the decks sometimes appears in a VoyeurX harness. A visual anchor for the entire evening.
In addition, there are original collaborations on the evening itself, such as a photo booth sponsored by VoyeurX where guests can take a memento of the evening home with them. Not a standalone promotion, but part of the styling and atmosphere.
Why VoyeurX is a perfect fit for Big Little Secrets
VoyeurX and Big Little Secrets share the same dedication to style, attention to detail, and an atmosphere where every guest can move freely. BLS curates the music, styling, and dress code into a cohesive whole. VoyeurX does the same on the body.
The designs are stylish, sophisticated and sensual. Handmade from soft, high-quality leather that moulds to your body and moves with you, all night long. Every strap, every buckle, every line is thoughtfully considered. Not a loud fetish look, but leather with a silhouette suited for an evening where style is paramount.
What makes VoyeurX so suitable for a party like BLS is the versatility of the leather. At the start of the evening, you wear a harness or bodysuit over a mesh underlayer, a sensual combination that fits seamlessly within the lingerie dress code. As the music builds and the atmosphere allows, the mesh layer is removed. What remains is leather pure on the skin, with the straps visible against the soft lines of the body. A transformation that moves with the rhythm of the night.
